Who are you, really?

"Time plays tricks on you. One day you're dreaming, and the next day your dream becomes your reality. It was the best of the times, if only someone would've told me. Mistakes were made, hearts were broken, harsh lessons learned."

The above quote aptly describes my 18 years of journey through what they call "Life."

I can bet, that there isn't a single person among my readers, who wouldn't have come across a quote or philosophy of the type, "be who you really are." Yet, the hardest question any of us had had to answer is, "tell us something about yourself." None of us has answered that one spontaneously, we've always had notes prepared.

But we all know the one person you've spent the most time with, is you yourself. Then why is this question so difficult? What is the big deal about accepting oneself, just as we are?

What amuses me the most, is that while we ourselves can't really accept what we really are, there isn't one person who wouldn't get offended when someone passes a judgement about them. Thats when our defence has statements like, "you haven't lived my life or had my experiences, on what basis can you say what I am?"

And that is EXACTLY my point. Nobody, but you has lived your life. Hence, nobody can know you better than yourself. We all know, "to err is human." Therefore, there's not one person who doesn't have flaws, or never made any mistakes. But we can't confess them. So how can you expect your past to not haunt you? You can't run away from yourself. I believe there is always a reason for what we do, did. No matter how short lived, pathetic, or unnecessary it might be, but there is a reason, and you know it best.

I heard this quote when I was a li'l kid, but its only now that I've understand what it really means, "to love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance." We all are attention seekers in one way or the other, desperate to fit in since we all are aware of the saying, survival of the fittest. That quote has lingered through generations, and still has the same worth. So if we all are only humans, and same in so many different ways, then why are we ashamed to say it?

Well, lets say, I don't blame Raghuram for getting so aggressive at the participants when they pretend to be what they aren't to be accepted! I mean, even the sound of pretence is pitiful. If you need to pretend, then the only person whose insulting you the most, are you. You're clearly saying you aren't good enough to display your true self in public. Do you now think there's someone who can insult you any further than this? I guess not. 

As offensive as this might sound, but people seem to be getting dumber and dumber by the day. All  we do is react emotionally when provoked, and ignore the rational part of it. We are so into pseudo communicating in the presence of all those social networking sites, that we have lost touch with ourselves. Give it a moment, think about it. Seriously.

PS - Before any one of you bothers to mention me being a part of what i'm complaining about, I know I'm there amongst the best/worst forms of it. Hence, the self loathing. Adieu!